Feels like I'm writing my blog after forever. I've been irregular with you all, my loves. You guys have been waiting for my blog posts and this makes me extremely happy.
In junior college, we had this so called uniform and it used to irritate me like hell. And here I am doing my engineering and happily wearing whatever I want to. No body questions me on the way I dress, this is the most amazing thing any institution could ever gift to their students, the freedom to dress for yourself. Think before you call yourself a free bird, because you're not. You're entangled with all the bullshit you've learnt about how one is supposed to dress on a particular occasion. Coming to my girls, none of them are free until and unless they do what they want and dress as they wish without thinking about the so called society. You wear a saree and you don't feel ashamed to show off your body, but you wear a crop top and everyone's gonna call you a bitch. This sounds so rude, but I need to mention this. No matter how small or big you are, you've got the right to wear anything and feel good about it when you're comfortable in it.
When we celebrate Independence Day on the fifteen of August with so much of pride and dignity, it would be lovely to see each individual celebrate their own identity, their individuality, their freedom of speech, expression and most importantly their freedom to dress for themselves. Rather than commenting about someone's clothes, comment about your own personality and work on it!!
And when I'm saying all this I mean it. Ask any girl you meet, whether she has ever been eve teased, and every next girl's answer is gonna be yes. The truth is harsh but if you're a boy and you're reading this, ask yourself how many guy friends do you have who don't check out girls. I'm not saying that we girls don't check out boys, but then there's a big difference. When a single guy checks me out in an inappropriate manner, I'll always feel that every other guy does the same. A girl entering a second class gents compartment and she'll feel like every other guy is staring at her and when I'm saying this, I've experienced it innumerable times. Even if the guys intention might not be wrong, I'll still feel that he's considering me a sex symbol. Girls are usually considered as sex symbols and I'm glad that I've got the platform to put the harsh truth in front of you'll.
When a guy comes and tells you that your red lipstick is seductive, and asks you to stop using it,you've got all the right to blame him for his cheap thoughts.
A lewd stare, a shy whistle, a well timed clap, an unwarranted bump, a seemingly casual touch, a lingering look at a vulnerable time, cheap gestures, the humming of a suggestive song, passing down right rude comments, bikes flying close with hands stretched to grope you.
Whose responsible for Eve teasing?
I'm sure you'll blame the government and the police force for it. I say, girls who do not react to such kind of activities, motivate boys to do it more often and fearlessly. The real problem is that girls are hesitant to inform their parents thinking that their activities and clothes would fall under scrutiny, late nights would be curbed, wantonly by parents.
While researching about this topic, I read the SECTION 509 which is also names as the Eve teasing section and it says:
"Whoever, intending to insult the modesty of any woman, utters any word, makes any sound or gesture, or exhibits any object, intending that such word or sound shall be heard, of that such gesture or object shall be seen, by such woman, or intrudes upon the privacy of such woman, shall be punished with simple imprisonment for a term which may extend to one year, or with fine, or with both."
I'm all for feminism and I wear whatever I want.
In one of the interviews, a girl said that she had been eve teased in UK as well, it's not just a problem in India, it's a world wide issue and honestly it's got nothing to do with feminism.
I think feminism isn't just about burning bras and talking about ' walking around shirtless ' and all those ' we want to feel safe ' demonstrations. There is nothing inherently wrong about all this, but there's more pressing issue like equal pay, basic rights, women empowerment, etc. I know women should feel safe when they're walking around at any hour of the night, in fact, any hour of the day. What can happen at night can also happen in bright daylight. The fact is that there are so many horny people out there. Most sensible people will take precautions against a risk instead of screaming at the world for being wrong. Though it's wrong to say that the person dressing proactively is to be blamed because people who don't dress proactively get raped too. Nobody deserves rape. Nobody deserves any kind of sexual harassment or violence at any time.
Now after reading this, I hope girls feel free to register any kind of complaint and learn to fight for themselves . And people who witness such crime and do not take any step against it are equally responsible.
Don't compromise yourself
You're what you've got
Fight Eve teasing!!
