Love your body

Body shaming is a serious issue. It took me a lot of courage to post my transformation picture online and I hope you all have a good time reading my wonderful experience. I was never an obese girl but losing weight was a dream. I lost 9 kgs two years back and as soon as I left working out, I gained all of it again. Trust me, when you lose weight and go back to square one, that’s one of the most toughest phase of your life as you’re definitely going to have a tough time losing it again. And I’ve been through all this with a lot of strength. 
Dealing with weight issues isn’t as easy as it looks. When people tell me that they lose weight even after sitting at home, I pity myself as I’m not as lucky as them. The past 5 months have been a game changer, I swear. Nothing can make me as happy as I am today, not that I didn’t love myself before but being fit was one dream which I thought would never come to life. 

You definitely need a lot of strength to read this. I’m definitely one of those girls who loves her golgappas and pizzas. And not being able to eat these for the past 5 months has been quite a difficult task because I have been following Rutuja Diwekar's Book and it lets me have only home cooked meals. From 69.5 kgs to 54 kgs, I’ve made myself stronger and better. My trainer at the gym used to force me to eat eggs but I never understood the importance of proteins in life. I did lose a lot of weight because of Rujuta's book but i wanted to concentrate on strength training too. Hence, I made up my mind that I will eat 4 egg whites a day along with homecooked meals and notice the changes in my body. People who say that girls shouldn’t lift heavy weights are lying or probably have no idea about the weight loss regime. Even I had the same kind of thoughts, until I started reading and watching videos on YouTube related to weight loss. After eating eggs, your muscle strength starts increasing and you can lift heavier. Lifting heavier weight means you can eventually lose more fat. I’m not the best person to tell you about weight loss but I’m trying to take you through my experience. Another mistake which I made is that I used to have my dinner late in the evening around 9 pm or 9.30 pm which is one of the biggest mistake anyone can make. Now I eat my dinner before 6 pm. I used to eat a lot of biscuits long before and now I don’t eat any. Eating healthier and better makes you feel confident everyday because your body is responding to everything and making you feel better day by day. People do laugh at me when they come to know that i follow such a strict routine but no gain without pain.

There are days when I don’t feel like going to the gym and don’t feel like eating healthy but then I look at the change in my body and that keeps me motivated. Getting up at 5.30 in the morning everyday just to go to the gym isn’t as easy as it looks. I haven’t consumed sugar for the past 5 months and I feel extremely bad about it because I love my cakes and ice creams but on the other hand I want to keep myself fit. I’m super proud of myself that I’ve achieved something I couldn’t even imagine that I could. I’m extremely grateful to people who called me fat and that has been a constant motivation. And I’m so sure those people can’t do a 40 second plank like I can, they can’t walk 10000 steps everyday and make it a routine, they can’t avoid their favourite food items to achieve something, they can’t do anything what I can and I love myself for that! I wish I could go back and thank all those people, thanks for making me think about myself and change for the better. I’ve learnt some important life lessons in this journey and one of them is that no matter how pure you are at heart, people are going to judge you on the basis of your looks and this is how our generation is! I’m glad that I’m able to share my story with a few people and I hope this encourages them to change for the better and become fitter. Just believe in yourself and you’re gonna kill it!!

Be YOU

Hey lovelies! Thank you for showering my blog with so much love. 
I'm sure I've lost touch with you guys and the connect that I had made with each one of you'll is difficult to get back to as it's been a long time since I've posted anything. But I'm sure this ones gonna be everyones favourite one as it's the first time I'm writing something about all of you'll!!
I'm back with a beautiful post which you're gonna enjoy. 

Life is all about experiences and there's nobody in this world who is not perfect. Yes, I'm trying to say that you are absolutely PERFECT. Is there any definition of perfection? No right! You are perfect the way you are because you are meant to be that way. 

You are kind. You are worthy of love. You are a real diamond. You are LOVED. 

Being loved doesn't mean you that you are supposed to have a girlfriend or boyfriend, there are so many out there who love you immensely. While working on this blog I came across a fact which said, "If you yourself believe that you're PERFECT, no one in the world can make you feel less."
We are born in a generation where social media has been given the highest priority. We are in this glamorous world of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewellery, beautiful dresses and what not. Everybody out there clicking pictures, taking selfies, posting them on various platforms for the sake of likes, comments and appreciation. But I'm sure each one of us has this fear of not being accepted by the society. 
Social media was basically made, to make you addicted to it, all these websites want people to constantly keep checking their phones, keep refreshing their profiles and we all are doing this every single day. For one good post, there are 100 other dumb or meaningless posts. 
I'm not someone who hates social media, I'm someone who loves it. Even I love posting pictures, even I love clicking a thousand selfies, who doesn't? Instagram and Facebook were made to share memories, and not for gaining likes. All these websites motivate you to discover a new side of yourself.

There are so many discriminations based on colour and body size. " I want to be fair, I want to be thin, I want to look good all the time. " Is this all you're saying to yourself? 
Let's look the other way round. Imagine you are loved by everyone, imagine you are the most happiest person alive, imagine yourself as the best. Could you imagine all this? If you could, I must say you have attained inner peace. Because this imagination didn't have anything to do with glamour, photos, make up and money. It was about pure happiness. And if you are someone who wants this in your life, you are BEAUTIFUL! 
You have a beautiful soul because all you want is love! You are craving for love. If you want everyone out there to love you, to respect you, to admire you, you should first LOVE YOURSELF. 
You're a beautiful mess, celebrate yourself. 

Don't ever think that you're the only person who messes up everything. Everyone fights with their best friend, everyone cries for someone they love, everyone fails in something, may it be studies or learning something, everyone makes mistakes. Life is about making mistakes, crying over it for sometime and moving on. 
You are strong because you stood by yourself in all these situations. You are never going to be alone, because you have your soul which is going to make you move on. So love yourself with all that you have because you deserve to be loved, not just by others, but also by yourself. 
Life can't be perfect always, but you can make it look perfect just by thinking positively. I'm not saying that I'm a person who thinks positive all the time. But I've learnt it with time. Positivity can't be achieved in a day, but as you start doing it, everyday will turn out to be great. There isn't a particular person who has taught me this, there are many people in my life who are thin, who are fat, who are dark, who are fair, yet they are BEAUTIFUL, because beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder. I always used to admire people and never had I ever imagined in my wildest dreams that there are people who also want to be like me. Yes, you are unique and someone you haven't even met wants to be like you, because they feel that you're simply AWESOME. If you constantly keep saying to yourself that " I'm awesome. " You'll achieve the biggest goal in your life and that's when you'll reach the final destination and life would be extremely beautiful and different after that. 

Be that person who wakes up with the purpose and intent. 

Be that person who shows up and never gives up.

Be that person who believes anything is possible and is willing to work for it.

Share your stories with the people you meet because you never know, maybe they might learn something amazing from you! 
My next post is for everyone out there who wants to look good, so wait for it. My journey from 68.5kgs down to 59kgs. I'm sure you are gonna love it.

It's a DRESS, not a YES!

Feels like I'm writing my blog after forever. I've been irregular with you all, my loves. You guys have been waiting for my blog posts and this makes me extremely happy.

In junior college, we had this so called uniform and it used to irritate me like hell. And here I am doing my engineering and happily wearing whatever I want to. No body questions me on the way I dress, this is the most amazing thing any institution could ever gift to their students, the freedom to dress for yourself. Think before you call yourself a free bird, because you're not. You're entangled with all the bullshit you've learnt about how one is supposed to dress on a particular occasion. Coming to my girls, none of them are free until and unless they do what they want and dress as they wish without thinking about the so called society. You wear a saree and you don't feel ashamed to show off your body, but you wear a crop top and everyone's gonna call you a bitch. This sounds so rude, but I need to mention this. No matter how small or big you are, you've got the right to wear anything and feel good about it when you're comfortable in it. 

When we celebrate Independence Day on the fifteen of August with so much of pride and dignity, it would be lovely to see each individual celebrate their own identity, their individuality, their freedom of speech,  expression and most importantly their freedom to dress for themselves. Rather than commenting about someone's clothes, comment about your own personality and work on it!! 

And when I'm saying all this I mean it. Ask any girl you meet, whether she has ever been eve teased, and every next girl's answer is gonna be yes. The truth is harsh but if you're a boy and you're reading this, ask yourself how many guy friends do you have who don't check out girls. I'm not saying that we girls don't check out boys, but then there's a big difference. When a single guy checks me out in an inappropriate manner, I'll always feel that every other guy does the same. A girl entering a second class gents compartment and she'll feel like every other guy is staring at her and when I'm saying this, I've experienced it innumerable times. Even if the guys intention might not be wrong, I'll still feel that he's considering me a sex symbol. Girls are usually considered as sex symbols and I'm glad that I've got the platform to put the harsh truth in front of you'll.

When a guy comes and tells you that your red lipstick is seductive, and asks you to stop using it,you've got all the right to blame him for his cheap thoughts.

A lewd stare, a shy whistle, a well timed clap, an unwarranted bump, a seemingly casual touch, a lingering look at a vulnerable time, cheap gestures, the humming of a suggestive song, passing down right rude comments, bikes flying close with hands stretched to grope you.

Whose responsible for Eve teasing? 

I'm sure you'll blame the government and the police force for it. I say, girls who do not react to such kind of activities, motivate boys to do it more often and fearlessly. The real problem is that girls are hesitant to inform their parents thinking that their activities and clothes would fall under scrutiny, late nights would be curbed, wantonly by parents. 

While researching about this topic, I read the SECTION 509 which is also names as the Eve teasing section and it says:

"Whoever, intending to insult the modesty of any woman, utters any word, makes any sound or gesture, or exhibits any object, intending that such word or sound shall be heard, of that such gesture or object shall be seen, by such woman, or intrudes upon the privacy of such woman, shall be punished with simple imprisonment for a term which may extend to one year, or with fine, or with both."

I'm all for feminism and I wear whatever I want. 

In one of the interviews, a girl said that she had been eve teased in UK as well, it's not just a problem in India, it's a world wide issue and honestly it's got nothing to do with feminism.

I think feminism isn't just about burning bras and talking about ' walking around shirtless ' and all those ' we want to feel safe ' demonstrations. There is nothing inherently wrong about all this, but there's more pressing issue like equal pay, basic rights, women empowerment, etc. I know women should feel safe when they're walking around at any hour of the night, in fact, any hour of the day. What can happen at night can also happen in bright daylight. The fact is that there are so many horny people out there. Most sensible people will take precautions against a risk instead of screaming at the world for being wrong. Though it's wrong to say that  the person dressing proactively is to be blamed because people who don't dress proactively get raped too. Nobody deserves rape. Nobody deserves any kind of sexual harassment or violence at any time.

Now after reading this, I hope girls feel free to register any kind of complaint and learn to fight for themselves . And people who witness such crime and do not take any step against it are equally responsible. 

Don't compromise yourself

You're what you've got

Fight Eve teasing!!

SUPERMEN: The hidden saviours

This ones a bit special! This ones for all the boys who take care of me and never let me down no matter how low I feel! 

I've written many posts about men being in the wrong side but there are always some good people who get unnoticed and I'm gonna thank them through this blog!

As I had mentioned earlier I travel through train and I'm one of those girls whose more comfortable in the first class gents compartment, I know it sounds weird!! It's less crowded mostly but even when it's crowded, some men are so polite that they offer me their seat, I feel happy when I see such people who respect girls so much and sometimes it does happen that they try to protect me. 

My best friends don't let me sit or stand besides a stranger when I'm travelling with them. They take care of me as if I'm a kid. 

In college, I've got guy best friends who panic when I'm sad even when they know that my reason for being sad is just too lame, they'll crack stupid jokes to make me happy and will do anything just to see me smile! Even when they don't mention while doing all this, I know that they're doing it for me, just to make me happy! My college leaves some 1-2 hours after their does but they stay up till I leave college. They come to pick and drop me from college to the station. Can't even explain how good it feels to have such boys in my life! Such boys are like a four leaf clover, lucky to have but hard to find!!

I've come across so many boys in my college life where I know that some are sweet and selfless while some are sweet and selfish! People don't turn up the way you expect them to be! There were times when I thought that the respective guy would be helpful and trustworthy, he didn't turn up to be that way! Some people wear masks on daily basis! On the other hand, there was a guy who spoke very less and was very shy since the moment I met him, but he opened up so well and I share the most amazing rapport with him. 

There were times when my mom used to tell me to beware of boys who enter my life, she always asked me not to trust people easily and here I am today happily letting boys enter my life and sharing the most darkest secrets with them because I know they are worth my trust and my love! I can't explain how amazing their portray of love and respect is! 

I'd always wanted an elder brother who would love me and protect me from all the bad things in life and today I don't feel the need to have one, my boys with whom I don't have any kind of blood relation have made me realize that you don't always need family connections to make stronger bonds. 

No matter how many tough looks they give, they'll be the one who'll be the most grounded when they're around you. 

Boys don't open up easily especially when it comes to sharing their deep secrets but you'll know it that he trusts you when he's comfortable while sharing anything and everything with you.

This ones for all the girls who are more comfortable around boys and invest most of their time chilling out with boys because there's so much less drama.

Not all men are the same. Couldn't stop myself from saying this. Invest your time in the right ones and they'll never ever let you down. They'll make you feel beautiful and make you love yourself. 

There's so much comparison between good and bad boys. Trust me, I'm not lying while I'm saying this, even the bad ones turn out to be good around a sweet girl. 

A huge hug and lots of love to the boys who unknowingly do good things and don't even expect anything in return. Not all girls look at how a guy looks before giving him any kind of importance in her life! All your sweet gestures, those heartwarming messages, kind smiles and respectful hellos and goodbyes are considered important. 

Be their friend, their best friend and they'll never leave you alone. Make them smile and they'll make you laugh. Be their bosom buddy and they'll offer you their shoulder when you cry.
Tell him another story
Tell him a million more
Let him sleep on your shoulder
He's gonna be your partner in crime, your gossip guy, your support forever!
When I've got the time to criticize and point out the flaws in some boys, I also find the time to respect and appreciate their good qualities! Maybe they've been brought up so well by their families or maybe they've learnt it with time! I'm sure they're gonna be amazing citizens who hold utmost respect for girls and I'm sure that if we've such guys in the society, girls are gonna be more safe! 

Colours Of Joy

Ever Since I started blogging, everybody is suggesting me different topics that I can write on and I'm so happy that you guys help me so much. I'd been inactive on my blog since two weeks as I'm an Engineering student and I've got other things that I need to focus on. Before starting the blog I'd promised myself that I'll never post something just for the sake of posting, hence I take my own time to find the right topic that I can do justice with.

I've kept focussing on social issues since the blog started. It's not because I had planned to write on that particular topic,it's because something or the other inspired me to write it. I'll be sharing a random incident which gave me the inspiration to write this post.

I travel through train daily and there are so many people whom I come across who inspire me and make me feel motivated, may it be a beggar or an office going person or a student. Some 2 weeks back I came across an Eunuch, she was asking for money and I removed some coins to give her but she didn't notice me and walked to the next compartment, later she came back and started speaking in English, it seemed like she was very educated, she said that she saw me taking out money and the very next moment she prayed for my future and well being and didn't even take any money from me. As she left, I told my friend about her, she was beautiful and educated, and asked him why is she begging, she can easily get a job to which he simply said "Who will give her a job?" Since then I've been thinking about her almost every single day. 

Not many of you know what an Eunuch is, they are called as Hijras and Kinnars in India and transgenders in other countries. 

Eunuchs are considered as the third gender in India.

I still remember, it was my brother's wedding and the very next day some Eunuchs came home and they looked so excited, yet again they prayed for my brothers marriage to last longer and said " Ladka hua toh 10,000 leke jainge!" Maybe I wasn't that happy when I saw them but today when I look back, I always consider them to be a well wisher.

As a child I'd always been afraid of them because they looked different but as I grew up I learnt that they're normal just like you and me. I'd always heard people making fun of them and using the word Hijra in a derogatory manner. We humans can joke about anything and everything.

It’s easy to fall into the trap of stereotyping this group that you may find hard to understand.Maybe you already have.

We've ourselves made assumptions about them as we think that they're over sexualised uncontrollable freaks, drugged out prostitutes and flamboyant drag queens. Not all transgenders live a crazy lifestyle and act hyper masculine and hyper feminine. There's so much confusion related to their gender but they know their sex and their gender very well. They aren't defective or wrong or mentally disturbed humans. Cross dressing doesn't always take place for drag shows. They dress up the way they're comfortable in. 

Transgenders cannot be identified easily as they look like normal human beings and I don't find it necessary to categorize them in a different way. They've got their own identity but they've the fear of coming out in public. But for those who do come up openly we need to respect them in every possible way. Everyone has their own choice and dignity. Many transgenders commit suicide as they're not accepted normal and claimed to have defects. 

We humans have this habit of segregating everything that we come across. They are human beings and Mother Nature has made them the way they are. There's so much to learn from them, such inspiring human beings. 

Manabi Bandyopadhyay who is a very respectful transgender who is the principal of Krishnanagar Women's college and the author of the bestselling novel.

Kalki Subramaniam is another inspiring example, she's an I.T professional and I love what she said in one of her interviews, she said "That would never happen earlier in the past. People would just not talk to transgenders. But now they not only talk to me, they invite me home."

In one of the interviews that I saw while researching on my topic, a man was describing an incident where a boy flirted with him and his heart started beating vigorously and that was the day when he discovered what he actually was and happiness started coming with the flow and I hold utmost respect for people who find their happiness and don't even have the fear of letting everyone else know what it feels like to be happy. People have always been afraid of being judged by others and that's the only reason why we can't even openly speak about this topic! 

Learn to spread colors of joy and happiness.

THERE ARE MANY WAYS TO BE HUMAN!! 

Love is a four legged word

I've been an animal lover since I was a child and I've always been a person who'll yell at people when they throw stones at dogs or irritate them! I love animals so much that if I'm asked to choose between humans and animals, I'll select animals without even giving it a second thought. 

Animals are my all time favourite topic and I'd always dreamt of writing something for them, my true love for sure! But this is going to be a bit different because I'll focus more on the evil side of human beings than focussing on my sweet hearted animals! 

Newspapers were flooded with the news of a man throwing a dog from the terrace of a building and some of his friends helped him to take pictures of it and record videos! Is there anything more lamer than this? And guess what, those boys were so called medical students! To all those who mention that education is important, then why are these men behaving so insane! What's the use of educating such morons? And these morons got a bail for 50 rupees! This is how strong the Animal Welfare laws are. With video evidence and so much of public outrage we couldn't remand them even for one day. I'm extremely disappointed and it's a 'Black day' for Animal Welfare in India.So glad that the dog is still alive! 

We call India a religious and cultural country where our poojas end with offering food to the animals and this is literal shame for our country.

"The greatness of a nation is judged by the way it treats its animals" said the father of our nation, Mahatma Gandhi.

People in India are so insensitive that nothing really bothers them. You rape a girl, you kill an animal, you drive your car over a man, you murder someone nothing matters, you'll still be treated as a normal human being! And to the ones who tolerate such kind of shit, its a sign of encouraging those people! That's even more foolish. 

This incident reminds me of an incident which happened a few days back.

So there was this cute pigeon whose leg got stuck in a wire and it was hanging upside down! It was bleeding! Mumma told me if I could help her,I was ready but I was scared because I know that I'm stupid so I thought I would cut her leg instead of the wire! But everything went amazingly well, and I love how sensible the pigeon was, she didn't even hurt me once! She knew that I was trying to help her out! Now she's  taking rest as she can't fly, hope she cures fast! Feels so amazing to save someone's life may it be a human being or an animal! 

To people who say that they hate animals, animals don't require their permission to live on earth, in fact animals were given the right to be here long before humans arrived. 

We term animals as wild and dangerous creatures yet they won't harm you until you try to harm them. And you call a man civilised and advanced even when you know that he can hurt his fellow men as well any other creature without even thinking twice! 

I'm nobody to force you to start loving animals, but Atleast try to respect them. 

And as I'd mentioned in my last post, as far as law is concerned it doesn't matter! At least in a country like India, it doesn't! 

On the other hand I've seen people who treat their pets as their family members! I feel so happy when I see people playing with street dogs and giving them as much love as they would give to their pet. 

A tiny pup, no one will play

He's waiting for that fateful day

When limbs torn off

Tail wags no more 

Waiting to die- his heart so sore

How can we abuse this trust

Loyalty, lovingly bestowed on us? 

Sadistic humans kill and maim 

Both animal and man 

We're all fair game.

" since rescuing animals, I lost my mind but found my soul " 

Dedicated to the loves of my life!!

Gender Bender

Usually all my blogs start with something that makes me inspired to write them! And even this ones similar to it! 

I've this habit of observing people around me, and when I see women who are independent and dress the way they want to, I feel so proud to be a girl! I absolutely love the concept of independence and I love to see women who are so independent that they take their own decisions! Some are like bread earners of their family! 

According to the old Indian society, girls were supposed to be at home and cook food! But there's so much change and today's Indian women have entirely changed this concept of girls sitting at home and cooking food. Today's girls have their own business ideas, even housewives have become entrepreneurs! 

But is this all we need? 

Even today some families follow the old Indian tradition, and they hesitate to send their girls to schools or for work! Some men have this horrible mentality and feel that their wives should sit at home and cook for them! 

It would be so romantic when both the husband and wife return from work and sit together, discuss about their day and have food! 

But the change from a position of utter degradation and subjugation of women in the 19th century is not a simple case of progress of women in the modern era.

Learning to embrace your singledom and enjoying the feeling of not running to your phone or drowning the failings of one lover into another.

Still women are being judged on the basis of their marital status and there's this so called marriageable age which we are yet to come out of! Marrying a boy and depending on him for your living is so mainstream! It's never too late to get married, but it can always be too early.

Women are still considered as a substance of symbolism,judged on the basis of clothing! So many things need to change for real!

I saw an interview on YouTube where I saw the difference in salaries of Bollywood stars. In Bollywood, male actors are paid more than their female costar! It's a sexist industry as well! 

According to a survey, Indian women do 5 hours of more unpaid work than men.There's so much need to put value on a women's unpaid labour as housework is also a job. We need equality at home imperative to equality at work! 

Why is a women considered to be financially dependent on a man? Why can't we think about the role reversal? Like why can't we imagine a man sitting at home and looking after the household chores whereas his wife working and earning for their family! Will our men be okay with this or not ? I'm sure they aren't yet ready for this! In Britain, more than 2,000 men look after their children. There's so much to learn from these men in Britain! That doesn't mean that men need to become unambitious! 

I saw a movie named "Ki and Ka" a week ago and this movie speagks about role reversals in an Indian household!  Women are considered as homemakers but why are housebands a myth yet? Only 32% men in India are okay with their wife earning more than them! A woman's domain is always work at house! 

We talk about gender equality and yet there are so many more points which can prove that India is still struggling for gender equality! Hence considered a developing country and not a developed one! The Indian mentality needs to grow, it needs to develop! 

We talk about the Indian culture and yet so many rape cases. As far as the law is concerned, it doesn't matter! 

Sometimes I do think that do we really need women's day? I've grown up in such a background where I'm considered equal to a boy and I'm allowed to dress the way I want and I'm allowed to choose my ambition! I'm constantly using the opportunities given by my parents and everyone doesn't get these opportunities.Some women don't need women's day, but millions do! 

I may sound like a feminist. Make your mind push all boundaries and grow in the real sense! 

I've been working on this blog since a week and it's yet not complete! There's so much I could add to this! 

It's so hard to be a woman! You're being judged continuously! 

You must think like a man

Act like a lady 

Look like a young girl 

And work like a horse.

We've begun to raise our daughters as our sons but few have the courage to raise their sons as their daughters!